Tips for Parents from Nursery School Teachers

Promote Independence

While children under 5 still need plenty of help from parents, Nursery Teachers agree that children are able to do more than we think. Here's how you can encourage them:

1. Expect more

People live up (or down) to expectations -- children included. At school we expect the kids to pour their own water at snack, to throw away their plates, to hang up their jackets -- and they do. But then they'll walk out of the classroom and the thumb goes in the mouth and they climb into strollers. Raise the bar and your child will stretch to meet it.


2. Resist doing for him/her what he/she can do herself

While it may be quicker and easier to do it yourself, it won't help to your child become self-sufficient. Appeal to her sense of pride. Ask them: 'Do you want me to help you or can you do it yourself? The Children always want to do it for themselves.

3. Don't redo what they've done

If your child makes her bed, resist the urge to smooth the blankets. If she dresses herself in stripes and polka dots, compliment her "eclectic" style. Unless absolutely necessary, don't fix what your child accomplishes, He/she will notice and it may discourage your child.

If you see your child trying to assemble a toy or get a book from a shelf that she can reach if she stands on her stepstool, pause before racing over to help. Provided that they are safe, those moments when you don't rush in, when you give children a moment to solve things for themselves, those are the character-building moments. It's natural to want to make everything perfect, but if we do, we cheat kids of the chance to experience success.

4. Let them solve simple problems

Putting your young child in charge of a regular, simple task will build her confidence and sense of competency. Just be sure the chore you assign is manageable and that it's real work, not busywork, since even young children know the difference. The goal is to make your child feel like a capable, contributing member of the family.

5. Assign a chore

Realize that each child has a different way of learning. Some children learn best by looking, such as watching a demonstration. Others learn in an auditory mode, such as listening to instruction. Others learn best by using their body to feel, touch, and explore. If one of these methods does not work right away, try another one. Visit us on Facebook to let us know what worked for you!

6. Respect the differences
in each child


Winning Cooperation

How to get your child under 5 to cooperate, willingly and happily.  

Especially if your child is not in a cooperative phase. Try to catch her being good and praise the good behaviour. Kids repeat behaviors that get attention.

1. Praise is key

Children cooperate in school because they know what's expected of them. The more consistent you are, the more cooperative your child will be.

2. Develop Routines

Make requests with words that assumes cooperation. "If you finish putting away your toys, we can go for a walk" suggests that perhaps your child won't clean up his toys. Try instead: "When you put your toys away, we'll go for a walk."

3. No "if's"

Get comfortable saying "Go play." It's not your job to see that your child is entertained 24/7. Let him/her get a little bored. But make sure he/she has items to play with - like dress-up clothes, pen and paper, a big cardboard box, and play dough.

4. Prioritize play

If your child is fighting over a toy with another child, set a timer for five minutes. Tell one child he can have the toy until he hears the buzzer, and then it will be the other child's turn.

5. Encourage teamwork

Instead of swooping in to settle disputes, stand back and let them work it out (unless they're hitting each other). You won't always be there to rescue your child.

6. Let your child work out minor squabbles


Disciplining Effectively

3 Effective discipline strategies Nursery teachers recommend.

If your child is jumping on the couch or grabbing for her big sister's dolls, distract her by asking if she'd like to draw a picture or read a short story together.

1. Redirect

If you find her coloring on the walls, have her help wash it off. If she knocks over a playmate's block tower, ask her to help rebuild it.

2. Involve her in righting her wrongs

If you must reprimand your child, do so when you see her misbehaving. Sometimes parents say, 'Wait until we get home ... ,' but by the time you're home, your child has forgotten the incident.

3. Don't delay discipline